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Do men and women feel attraction differently? I'm going to present to you a somewhat controversial theory from evolutionary psychology. Might make some angry, but resonate with others. So I want you to let me know in the comments just how well it lines up with your personal experience. Then I'll crunch the numbers for a follow-up video. Ready? Here we go. Men and women have totally different formulas for how they calculate attractiveness. And I don't just mean personal preferences, like the four B's. Boob, butt, beard, bear. I mean the internal calculation that your brain makes when you're around someone out something ranging from Eek, toss them into Mount Doom, to where's the nearest motel? Evolution gives us one primary goal to propagate our species, to have as many healthy babies as possible. And yes, we're all different, and this whole thing is a big spectrum. But in broad strokes, the biggest differences between men and women arise because we have different costs. A man can sleep with five different women in one day and then disappear with fewer repercussions. I've still a beast a baby. Evolution doesn't care as long as it turns into a baby, or five. It just wants to make sure that those babies are healthy, by prodding him to look for physical indicators of health in those that he sleeps with. When a woman gets pregnant, that's an investment. Nine months where she gets progressively less physically capable, and then years of actually having to raise and provide for the child. So her brain is programmed to look for someone who will help her through that process, and to have healthy babies. Now enough theory, let's look at the formulas. Yes, I consider myself a nerd. For women, they take all the personality traits like humor and kindness, add them to direct supporter indicators like car, watch, job, trust fund, add in physical attractiveness, If there are no red flags and the average is high enough, the brain spits out a, yes, we are attracted, response. There's a chance even if the physical part is like this. For men, it's a bit different. We still take the same sorts of things into account, but there's an added math step. We add up all the non-physical parts and then multiply them by the physical, which itself is still subjective. Even if everything in column A is all tens, if B is a two, that's a recipe for friends zone. And that could be frustrating for them. Because while column A can shift a lot as you get to know someone, B has much less wiggle room. There's a lot of scientific debate about this theory, so let's do some science of our own. Comment a number from 1 through 5 representing if you strongly disagree with this theory to strongly agree. And it would help if you included your pronouns. And share this to help us get more data.
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How does it work in YOUR brain? Let’s debate in the comments, but keep it civil! #psychology #evolutionarypsychology #tiktoklearningcampaign #science
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- Evolutionary-psychology attraction theory discussed in transcript; study titles, DOI/PMID numbers, and source links not listed in workbook.